Sexist and Homophobic?

As a community, Christians have failed to approach these issues with kindness and compassion. Instead, Christianity is now contaminated with the stigmas of sexism and homophobia. We have been unable to share our beliefs in a way that speaks truth and mercy; now, we are characterized by picketing and stupid slogans. Although the Bible does not give us a definite step by step outline, God already revealed to us how these issues should be treated- with prayer, love, and wisdom. A clear answer is not always available, but Christians should rely on the Bible as their instructor. The Bible does not advocate sexism or homophobia, yet, Christians must be ready to give an answer that is not socially acceptable. As to the claim that Christians “are sexist and homophobic”, I would state that although some Christians are, but the Bible does not teach us this. 

First of all, homophobia must be clearly defined because in general, the word is tossed about without any genuine meaning. Homophobia is the extreme and irrational aversion to homosexuals; not the disapproval of their lifestyle, but the legitimate fear of homosexuals. Christians do not despise or become terrified by the thought of homosexuals, that is merely a stereotype. However, the much larger issue is how do we treat homosexuals with regards to our faith. It is a cliche and often considered trite Christian saying, but I feel that it is applicable- “Hate the sin, not the sinner.” Homosexuality is a continual sin, comparable to alcoholism or fornication, and must be treated as such. Of course, society’s mandate accuses this statement to be cruel and politically incorrect, but as to not get into an argument on the legitimacy of homosexuality- we will leave that aside. God grants love and mercy to every person willing to except his grace- this includes homosexuals. Furthermore, as Christians we cannot go about screaming about their damnation, to do so is unbiblical and unhelpful. Instead, by forming genuine and respectful relationships with the homosexual community will provide greater opportunities for ministry. I know this sounds naive. But, I truly believe Christians must begin to develop a new approach to homosexuality (not a new doctrine) and therefore extend God’s love to all. Indeed, Colossians 3:23 tells us “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” We are not to judge. We are to be respectful and shine the light of God’s goodness. Let that be enough. 

Now, as to the issue of sexism. Christianity has been accused as demeaning and subjecting women to the desires of men. Many have even used scripture references in order to prove their point. However, multiple flaws exist within their argument. Firstly, God created man and woman in the image of God- therefore equating them to His glory. The Bible does not preach the inequality between man and woman, and even more so- suggests woman to be the completion of man and the giver of life. Yes, woman are generally depicted as mothers and wives, but it is only in our society that this role has been diminished. God granted the glory of life to woman. Furthermore, God did not make man and woman to the same, but that does not make them unequal in power. Instead, God calls each gender to different roles that emphasize their different gifts. Woman have the natural ability to nurture and comfort- mothering highlights these attributes. God did not demean woman by granting her the ability to bear children, indeed God uses female characteristics to describe himself. In today’s society, any word or action can appear sexist, so naturally God’s elevation of mothering is horrible. Finally, God depicted many strong females throughout the Bible such as Rahab, Esther, Ruth, and Mary that defied expectations and relied upon God for strength. As Christians, God did not call us to disgrace genders, but to uplift the different abilities God has granted us.